Seeing all those reminders of a family's past, like Filipinos do every All Saints' Day, gets people thinking about their forefathers and foremothers, who were they, what were they like in life, and all those things.
Darth Amelie had those kinds of musings when she visited her grandfather's grave in Noveleta, Cavite. Read her entry here.

In Cavite City, this is one occasion when you still hear a lot of Chabacano spoken. No masyao mucho el genti, some people said. (Yes, it seemed like there weren't as many people as in previous years). There was still a throng of course, but other signs of an overflow crowd were not evident. Not too many policemen, marshalls or tanods, and no provisions even for portalets.
Used to be, going to the panchong on All Saints' Day was a big production. Family members bought lots of flowers and
candles, packed tons of food and drinks, thought of things with which to occupy kids' attention, and once there, chit-chatted with an assortment of friends, relatives and acquaintances.
There was only a handful of us this year, and no little children. The kids have grown and somehow found ways to keep themselves busy. No one packed food or drinks because those could easily be bought at the stalls.
Some friends and relatives passed by our space in the cemetery, the kinds of people you see only once a year, most likely only during All Saints' Day. We rarely see them so we lose track of what has happened to them over the months.
Take this conversation between my uncle and his second (or third?) cousin.
Bobby: Hi Danny, Quetal? Donde esta tu mujer? (Hi Danny. How are you? Where is your wife?)
Danny (with big grin): Talla, muerto ya. Ya bisita nga yo eh. (She's there. I visited her in her gravesite. She passed away already).
Bobby: Cuando lang? (Just recently?)
Danny: Esti June lang. (Just last June).
Some people even forget how we look. Norma, the recently-widowed part-time masseuse/part-time the memorial plan agent, was talking to my uncle who was next to me, and saying, "Bobby, pag nakita mo yung pamangkin mo, sabihin mo nasa akin ang resibo ng St Peter niya." (Bobby, when you see your niece, tell her I have her St Peter receipt). She didn't realize I was right there. Or have I become so unrecognizable after gaining weight? Seeing people from way back makes you think about these things.


There may not have been a big Todos Los Santos crowd as in previous years, but the Libingan Panglusod ng Kabite (Cavite City Cemetery) where we go every year would still remind visitors of a tiangge, a flea market. That's what crossed my daughter's mind when she saw the crowd as well as the stalls set up at the center of the cemetery road.
By nightfall, the stalls were doing brisk business, thanks to the light provided by the city government. So if you happened to be sitting on the bench in our space at the panchong, you'd be seeing this view of the road and the stalls:
and then this view of the tombs of my grandfather and other relatives:

Empty benches now are where we used to squeeze ourselves in in years past. There used to be no place at all to sit and family members had to bring their own plastic or foldable chairs. So nuay masyao mucho genti (not too many people) because people move, migrate and have other gravesites to visit, or maybe because of the rising price of gasoline. I wonder what it will be like next year? Same old, same old?

(photos by Karla)